Emotions With Animals: Mischievous Pelicans

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Mischievous pelicans eat fish with their beak and their see-through pouch open. Pelicans will look silly mischievous.

Mischievous people giggle nervously. If you ask someone,”Are you hiding something?” and they might reply no to you. Be careful not to get mischievous yourself!

How To Not Be Mischievous:

Channel Mischief: Channel your mischief into curiosity for things.

Transform: Transform your mischief into a learning experience to keep from doing something dangerous or get you in trouble.

Connecting: Connect with the feeling that comes with mischievous. After you finish connecting with it, go for a walk in nature or anything that will channel the mischief to something (see Channel Mischief for more).

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Learn About Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion

Hey there! Want to learn more about compassion, sympathy and empathy? You’ve come to the right place!

Compassion actually means “to suffer together.” Among emotion researchers, it is defined as the feeling that rises when you are approached with someone suffering and feel motivated to relieve that person’s suffering. Compassion isn’t the same as empathy though the thoughts are related.

While empathy refers more formally to their ability to take the perspective of and feel the emotions of a person, compassion is when those feelings and thoughts include the desire to help. Altruism is the kind and selfless behavior often prompted by feelings of compassion, though a person can feel compassion without acting on the compassion, and altruism can’t always motivated by compassion. While people who doubt may leave compassion as touchy-feely or not logical, scientists have started to map the biological basis of compassion, suggesting its deep evolutionary meaning.

Some research has shown that when anyone feel compassion, anyone’s heart rate slows down, anyone secretes the bonding hormone oxytocin, and regions of the brain linked to feelings of pleasure light up, which often results in their wanting to approach and care for other people. Scientific research into the measurable benefits of compassion is very young. Preliminary findings suggest that being compassionate can improve health, well-being, and relationships with people.

Many scientists believe that compassion might be vital to the survival of their species, and they’re finding that its advantages can be increased through targeted exercises and practice. Here are some of the most top exciting findings from this research so far.

Compassion makes us feel good. Compassionate action (e.g., giving to charity) activates pleasure circuits in the brain, and compassion training programs even very brief ones strengthen brain circuits for pleasure and reward and lead to lasting increases in self-reported happiness. Being compassionate—tuning in to other people in a kind and loving manner—can reduce risk of heart disease by boosting the positive effects of the Vagus Nerve, which helps to slow our heart rate.

One compassion training program has found that it makes people more resilient to stress; it lowers stress hormones in the blood and saliva and strengthens the immune response. Brain scans during loving-kindness meditation which directs compassion toward suffering, suggest that on average, compassionate people’s minds wander less about what has gone wrong in their lives, or might go wrong in the future; as a result, they’re happier.

Compassion helps make caring parents. Brain scans show that when people experience compassion, their brains activate in neural systems known to support parental nurturance and other caregiving behaviors. Compassion helps make better spouses.

Compassionate people are more optimistic and supportive when communicating with others. Compassion helps make better friends. Studies of college friendships show that when one friend sets the goal to support the other compassionately, both friends experience greater satisfaction and growth in the relationship growing compassion for one person makes us less vindictive toward others.

Restraining feelings of compassion chips away at our commitment to moral principles. Workers who receive more compassion in their workplace see themselves, their co-workers, and their organization in a more positive light, report feeling more positive emotions like joy and contentment, and are more committed to their jobs. More compassionate societies those that take care of their most vulnerable members, assist other nations in need, and have children who perform more acts of kindness—are the more happier ones.

Compassionate people are more socially adept, making them less vulnerable to loneliness; loneliness has been shown to cause stress and harm the immune system. They often talk about some people as being more compassionate than others, but research suggests compassion isn’t something you’re born with or not. Instead, it can be strengthened through targeted exercises and practice.

Here are some specific, science-based activities for cultivating compassion from their new site, Greater Good in Action: Feeling supported: Think about the people you turn to when you’re distressed and recall times when you’ve felt comforted by them, which research says can help us to feel more compassionate toward others. Compassion meditation: Cultivate compassion toward a loved one, yourself, a neutral person, and even an enemy.

Put a human face on suffering: When reading the news, look for profiles of specific individuals and try to imagine what their lives have been like if you read the news. Eliciting altruism: Create reminders of connectedness. Compassion training programs, such as those out of Emory University and Stanford University, are revealing how we can boost feelings of compassion in ourselves and others.

Here are some of the best tips to emerge out of those programs, as well as other research. Look for commonalities: Seeing yourself as similar to others increases feelings of compassion. A recent study shows that something as simple as tapping your fingers to the same rhythm with a stranger increases compassionate behavior.

Calm your inner worrier: When we let our mind run wild with fear in response to someone else’s pain (e.g., What if that happens to me?), we inhibit the biological systems that enable compassion. The practice of mindfulness can help us feel safer in these situations, facilitating compassion. Encourage cooperation, not competition, even through subtle cues: A seminal study showed that describing a game as a “Community Game” led players to cooperate and share a reward evenly; describing the same game as a “Wall Street Game” made the players more cutthroat and less honest.

This can be a valuable lesson for teachers, who can promote cooperative learning in the classroom. See people as individuals (not abstractions): When presented with an appeal from an anti-hunger charity, people were more likely to give money after reading about a starving girl than after reading statistics on starvation—even when those statistics were combined with the girl’s story. Don’t play the blame game: When we blame others for their misfortune, we feel less tenderness and concern toward them.

Respect your inner hero: When we think we’re capable of making a difference, we’re less likely to curb our compassion. Notice and savor how good it feels to be compassionate. Studies have shown that practicing compassion and engaging in compassionate action bolsters brain activity in areas that signal reward.

To cultivate compassion in kids, start by modeling kindness: Research suggests compassion is contagious, so if you want to help compassion spread in the next generation, lead by example. Curb inequality: Research suggests that as people feel a greater sense of status over others, they feel less compassion. Don’t be a sponge: When we completely take on other people’s suffering as our own, we risk feeling personally distressed, threatened, and overwhelmed; in some cases, this can even lead to burnout.

Instead, try to be receptive to other people’s feelings without adopting those feelings as your own. Empathy is at its simplest awareness of the feelings and emotions of other people. It is a key element of Emotional Intelligence, the link between self and others, because it is how we as individuals understand what others are experiencing as if we were feeling it ourselves.

Empathy goes far beyond sympathy, which might be considered feeling for someone. Empathy is feeling with that person through the use of imagination. Empathy is feeling someone else’s feelings and you understand.

Empathy is feeling sorry for someone. Empathy is also experienced by almost everyone at 1 point in their life especially autism people. (No offence for autism people). Compassion is actually love in disguise.

If your loved one is in a hospital, war, hurt, sick, or dying. Ask a friend or parent to help you and they might show that they are compassionate for you or they might show empathy for you. They might show sympathy too.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post. There might be a Emotions With Animals edition blog post of this topic!

Compassion for the earth! ♥💖Found on Google Images!

Websites I Used:

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/compassion/definition

https://grammarist.com/usage/empathy-sympathy/

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Graceful Planets

Hey there, everyone! I recently wrote Graceful SwansEnchanted Egyptian BeautyA Mindful Mermaid StoryA Sad Princess StoryEmotions With Animals: Sad CatsJealous CrayonsEmotions With Animals: Jealous ParrotsMindful GoslingsAngry Candy StoryEmotions With Animals: Angry Ducks,  and A Happy FairyHappy Dogs.

Once upon a time, there lived a planet named Blue Moon who had always wanted to be graceful but her parental planets didn’t agree yet. She needed proof to prove she wanted to be graceful but she didn’t know yet.

She went to Wild Fruit planet who was very wise. Wild told her to be patient. So she was patient but one day the idea goes into her circular head. She set out to find a graceful planetary animal who would be given to her parental planets as proof.

Finally after looking several planetary nights and days, she found a planet animal called Nebula Sparkles. The animal was incredibly graceful and she asked the animal if she wanted to go back with her to Planetary Moon Sky.

The animal said, “Yes, you may take me back to Moon Sky”. When they arrived, she was greeted and she gave them the animal.  Blue Moon explained that she got the animal for her proof that she was graceful.

Her parental planets talked it over. They finally agreed that she could be graceful. So now whenever you see the Blue Moon, just remember this legend and you may see her parental planets in the distance.

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Awesome Blue Moon

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Graceful Swans

Hey, everyone! Welcome back to this week’s edition of Emotions With Animals! I have recently wrote Enchanted Egyptian BeautyJealous CrayonsEmotions With Animals:: Jealous ParrotsAngry Candy StoryEmotions With Animals: Angry DucksA Sad Princess StoryEmotions With Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings.

Swans gracefully float across wetlands, lakes, ponds, seas. Swans are calm most of the time. Most swans gracefully fly in hibernation season in search for warm water.

Graceful people can float in pools and beaches. People can be calm sometimes. People can walk, swim, play, smile, stand, and sitting gracefully.

How To Be Graceful:

Living: Live in a place full kindness, courage, loving, conviction, non-resistant  and acceptance.

Sleep: Knowing that you’re loved, helps you to go to sleep gracefully.

Connecting With Emotions: It will make you feel graceful afterward.

Responding: Respond with love.

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Beautiful swan landing. I also got this photo from Google Images!

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Jealous Crayons

Hey there, everyone! I wrote Emotions With Animals: Jealous ParrotsAngry Candy StoryEmotions With Animals: Angry Ducks,  A Sad Princess StoryEmotions With Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings. I hope you enjoy my crayon story!

Once upon a time, a crayon named Brick was almost always jealous of his twin Periwinkle Strawberry Star ever since Periwinkle was born. One day, their parents called Indigo and Violet thought they should find a plan to stop the jealousy.

So they called, asked, walked, explored and traveled. Finally, they found a crayon named Blueberry Midnight Indigo. The trio crayons headed back to their colorful home. Indigo and Violet called Brick when they got home. Violet pretended to adopt Blueberry. Indigo pretended to tell Brick,”Periwinkle has been sent away.”

Over the next few days, Brick got to know Blueberry. Little did she know, that Indigo and Violet were with Periwinkle who was still in the colorful home. Soon a year passed since Brick had been jealous and Brick had become a great friend (good fake sibling also) to Blueberry.

One day, Violet and Indigo thought it was about time that Brick knew the truth. So Violet and Indigo told Brick the truth and showed Periwinkle who explained she had been in her colorful red and blue room while Indigo and Violet had visited her every day.

So Brick apologized to Periwinkle for being jealous about Periwinkle’s name. Periwinkle told her brother that she could change his name to Atomic Brick Red. Brick loved it and from that day forward he was Atomic. As for Blueberry, he married Periwinkle. Atomic Brick and Blueberry became brothers in law. If you look closely, you can hear the new trio laughing, talking, and having fun.

I hope you enjoyed my crayon story! Tune in next Friday for the next round of Emotions With Animals. Also, don’t forget to check out Camilla’s website at Mindful Musings.

Colorful Crayons found on Google Images!

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Emotions With Animals: Jealous Parrots

Hey, everyone! I recently wrote Angry Candy StoryEmotions With Animals: Angry DucksA Sad Princess StoryEmotions With Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings. Welcome back to a weekly edition of Emotions With Animals!

Jealous parrots might fan their tails and chatter loudly. The parrots might screech. The parrots might even try to scratch or bite a new animal. Occasionally, jealous parrots turn their feelings inward and start pulling out their own feathers.

Jealous people might find a way to get away from you. The jealous people might be thinking, “I wish I had that.” or “I really want that” instead of being grateful for what they have. If you aren’t careful enough, you might get jealous and pack the jealousness deep into your body and cause pain and difficulty.

How To Stop The Jealousy:

Examine Your Actions And Intentions:

Look deep inside your body and ask yourself, are you doing or saying anything that could be worsening their feelings of jealousy? Are they in a bad place in their life and have you not been attentive enough of their needs?

Telling the Truth:

Tell the person that you were jealous can make you feel a lot better. Take the time to talk about it with the person and see why they may be feeling the way they do. Don’t be surprised if their first reaction is one of denial or to say you are imagining things. Some people are not aware of how their jealousy manifests itself so let them know what you hear from them and how it makes you feel, using “I” statements like “when I hear you react this way, it makes me feel…”

Find out it they are going through a rough patch or if you managed to ignore or brush past their last success. Let them know how important your friendship is to you and see if you can both make a conscious effort to be more supportive and celebrate each others good news as if it was your own.

Letting Go: It may seem hard but you’ll feel better after. Just let go of whatever you’re jealous of.

Make a list of things that you’re grateful for: This will make you feel better.

Go observe nature in silence: Observe the birds, ducks, geese, trees, flowers, and leaves in silence.

Practice doing mindfulness daily: This is not needed for jealousy but you should do it every day.

I found this gorgeous parrot on Google Images

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Angry Candy Story

Hey there, everyone! I recently wrote Emotions With Animals: Angry DucksA Sad Princess StoryEmotions With Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings.

Once upon a time, there lived a red chewy candy who was always angry and her name was Angel. One day, Angel got angry for some unknown reason. Her candy buddies decided to investigate what could have made her angry but first, they had to look for some possible clues.

While they were investigating, Angel met with her candy friend, Sneaky Spice-Rika who was always acting innocent but Sneaky was hiding something from Angel. The investigators found strawberry flavored licorice, spices, and mint candy. So they went back to their club called Secret Detective Club to plan their next step of the mystery.

They put together a list of suspicious candy suspects with other candy suspects to talk to. The candy suspects’ were Sneaky Spice-Rika, Strawbella, and Sugarlicious.  They set out to talk to Sugarlicious first. “I did see something very unusual, odd, and peculiar this morning.” said Sugarlicious, “I saw Sneaky Spice-Rika near Angel”.  So the buddies said,”Thank you”! and moved on to talk to Strawbella but apparently she didn’t see anything strange.  Finally, they talked to Sneaky Spice-Rika and she said she was only near Angel to talk to her. So they went to Angel to get more facts and she said it was to comfort her. So the investigators went on to explain the whole story.

When Angel had heard the whole story, she chuckled and explained to them that no one had made her angry but herself. She also said that she had a bad argument with her candy parents, Coca and Choc. The investigators went back to everyone what they had learned. First, they stopped by Sugarlicious to tell her what she had thought was actually an act of kindness. Next, they stopped by Strawbella to tell her that Angel had been angry and she was made angry all on her own.

Lastly, they visited Sneaky Spice-Rika to apologize about suspecting her. The investigators thanked her for being such a great friend. Angel forgot about being angry and never got angry again. If you look closely, you can see Angel in any chewy red candy you or your friends eat.

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Emotions With Animals: Angry Ducks

Hey there, everyone! Welcome back to Emotions With Animals. This week’s emotion is Anger. I also have recently wrote A Sad Princess StoryEmotions WIth Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings if you haven’t seen these blog posts yet. Thank you for everyone who has visited these linked blog posts!

Angry ducks hiss and beat nearby ducks. Angry ducks can fight like people. Angry ducks are similar to people.

Angry people have meltdowns. Angry people have arguments. Angry people also hiss. Angry people beat other people and objects.

Here are some ways to stop anger:

Separate emotion and action: It’s easier to get rid of the anger when you separate those emotions and actions. You might feel a little better when you do this.

Do Some Exercises: This will cool yourself down when angry. It will also help your body stay healthy and strong.

Delay your Reaction: This will help you get centered again. Inhale deeply and as you exhale, count to ten or repeat a phrase that helps you relax several times.

Distract Yourself: Read a good book that will make you feel happy, watch a movie that will make you smile or feel good, and think of a good memory. You could also try painting, drawing, writing, and more!

Discuss Your Anger With Someone You Trust: This might make you feel better. It could be a family member, friend, or someone you play or work with. The person you talk to may have experienced it themselves.

Listen to Music: Listening to the music may help you feel better. Listen to aggressive music that matches your mood allows you to work through the emotion productively. Listen to slower music (such as acoustic or Hawaiian music) allows you to slow your thought process and calm down.

Write a E-Mail To Yourself: I know it might sound silly but it will help you feel a lot lighter once your done. Write out your anger and then continue to revise the e-mail as you think of new things you would’ve liked to say at the time.

Get everything out of your system about the issue on your own time, as the words come to you. Once you have nothing more to say and you’ve perfected the e-mail.  Go delete the email. Use erasing the e-mail as a symbolic gesture toward letting go of what’s bothering you.

Disconnect from Your Triggers

Watch a Funny Show/Movie: See the Distract Yourself to see info on this section.

Accept and Know: It’s okay to feel angry and be angry.

Focus: Where do you feel the anger in your body? How does it feel? Does it feel tight, painful, or tight.  Focus on all of that. Eventually, it should go away. Of course, if it’s your first few times it may not work for you because it takes practice.

Do something: Take few deep breaths, look at a flower, look at a tree, look at birds, or go for a walk.

Don’t say judgemental things About Anger: You’ll feel better after you have done this.

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Cute Angry Duck. Doesn’t it look adorable?

 

A Sad Princess Story

Hey, everyone! I recently wrote Emotions With Animals: Sad CatsA Happy FairyHappy DogsA Mindful Mermaid Story, and Mindful Goslings if you want to check it them out. This post is about a sad princess story. Read on to discover the story and enjoy!

Once upon a time, there lived a princess named Liana who cried a lot and almost never stopped. One day when Liana was crying, her parents who were the Queen and King thought they had to do something immediately.

So the Queen and the King thought for several days and nights. Suddenly, they had a fantastic idea and that idea was to make her laugh. So the Queen and King set out on a search to find someone or something to make her laugh out loud.

They found a funny book that would surely make her laugh. So they went home to the castle to see if their theory was right. Surprisingly, the princess laughed and laughed. At first, she was chuckling and the chuckling came bigger.

The Queen and King were relieved. She didn’t cry ever again except for joyful tears. If you listen carefully, you might be able to  hear her laughing.

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Emotions With Animals: Sad Cats

Hey there, everyone! Welcome back to Emotions With Animals. These posts are to help with learning purposes, animal lovers, and to help with emotions. I recently posted Mindful GoslingsA Mindful Mermaid StoryHappy Dogs, and A Happy Fairy.

Cats yowl and protects itself by wrapping his tail, crouching low, holding ears in a fearful or cautious manner, and glum whiskers.

People sometimes make noises like cats do when they’re sad. People try to protect themselves by forcing the tears into a lump in the throat. People will be silent and thinking. The people will have a sad smile, half smile, or sad face.

Here’s some tips of how not to be sad if you feel like you are sad.

It’s okay to be sad. You don’t have to be happy unless you want to get out of the sadness stage.

Find something that makes you laugh. Look at someone who’s hilarious to you, smile, read something, watch something, or draw something funny.

Keep in mind that I post Emotions with Animals every Friday. Look for my weekly emotion story!

Also, don’t forget to check out Thomas‘s blog post on his website. It’s about Thomas selling copies of his painted rocks. If you wish, go and buy a rock or 2. Find out more details at the link above.  Check out Camilla’s blog at Mindful Musings and she’ll give you more emotion tips and anything.

I found this photo on Google Images. They're so cute!

I found this photo on Google Images. They’re so cute!